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My heart feels like it is simultaneously crushed and stretched by your story and I realise there are tears running down my cheeks. There really is no love like it and the way you describe this largely unspoken relationship is breathtaking. Your baby will always be a part of you, so much love dear Julia xx

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Thank you for welcoming me like this. It’s a sensitive topic on both sides of the screen, I feel. I am so glad I got to put it into words and honor my raincloud baby. And I am so grateful for you reading them and receiving them so graciously. Thank you 🙏🏼♥️

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This is stunning, Julia. I also lost my first pregnancy, though very early. I wish there had been someone to say those words to me when it happened. It's such an isolating experience, especially when you're surrounded by healthy pregnancies. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm happy to be here with you now, on the other side of it. ❤️

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I am receiving you and sending you love in return. Thank you for sharing this vulnerable truth with me. There isn’t much else to say other that I am grateful for the consciousness this experience gifted me and I am eternally glad we are both on the other side as well ♥️

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Echoing Lauren’s comment. I don’t have words, my entire body has chills. Every word of this is beautiful, and heart wrenching, and loving all at the same time. Thank you for trusting us with your story, your love, and your heart. Sending you a hug from a far.

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Thank you so much for receiving it like you did. I honestly was so scared and relieved at the same time. Relieved because I finally got to say the things that were weighing on my heart — I feel like now I have truly acknowledged this baby’s precious and fleeting existence and it’s permanent mark on me. I talk about mothering Elowen all the time…it felt unloving not to include them into my intimate written world.

And at the same time I was terrified to share because I know this is a sensitive topic for so many, me included and it’s so easy to hurt someone or trigger them unknowingly.

Thank you so much for receiving me with your usual kindness and understanding, it means SO MUCH.

This little community truly feels like a little corner of safety ♥️

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This was so beautifully written. I have no words, only tears. ❤️❤️

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Georgia, thank you. Thank you for receiving this piece with an open and vulnerable heart — it felt so strange to write it and share it, but every person that read it only had kind words and a gentle heart to offer me. I am so grateful 🙏🏼

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Your words took my breath away ❤️. The words that you spoke to the lady in the waiting room were so beautiful and courageous. I am sure that these words had a huge impact on her and they will help her heal. How beautiful too that these were the words you needed to hear. X

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It’s funny how sometimes what you most need to hear is what you put into words driven by genuine compassion for someone else — self-compassion is so tricky but something unlocks when it’s someone who lose suffering before your eyes. And all of a sudden, you can’t help soothing yourself as well.

Thank you for picking up on that and for reading this, I know it was a somewhat challenging piece. I feel very held ♥️

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I don’t have words for this. Nothing that feels right. I wish I could hug you and hold you. The depth of your writing penetrates my heart always, but in this piece it’s gone deeper than I could imagine. I will forever look at a Raincloud differently now. Xxx

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Thank you, it felt so…weird and natural at the same time to address this to my raincloud baby when I’m about to welcome into the world Hazel so very soon. I feel relieved somehow? Like something that needed to be said finally came out.

Thank you for being always so kind and welcoming, I am deeply touched ♥️

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Story telling is such deep medicine. I see you in my own stories, a remembrance that we are not alone in our experiences. I so deeply crave the babies I have not yet bought earthside and I know they are close in more sense than one. It took me years to acknowledge my experience as early BIRTH. For that is what our bodies do for every pregnancy we have. It helps feel so connected to that experience, something we did together as mother and baby. Sending so much love to you, thank you x

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