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Rachel's avatar

OMG. I love EVERY. SINGLE. WORD. And I resonate with it so so much 😭 I wish all these things too. I think all those thoughts too. Glad not being alone in this. And also: I‘m in the process recently to accept the mother I am and to be honest with myself. And to change what I can: like getting a babysitter for two hours a week. To get a little more space. A little more air to breathe. Because I need it. Others might not (and I envy them for not needing it). But I do. And my hope is, with this more space and time (for my creative projects, or to just do things in the household in peace and in one go) I will be those other mothers within me more often 💜

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Accepting the mother I am. Day by day. In process/progress. Thank you for being human too 🫶🏼 And yes, that last sentence...sometimes all you need is space to expand and complete, don't you?

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♤ÈMI ÀṢÀKÉ♤'s avatar

I am not even going to lie, this was so beautiful to read, soo beautiful 🥹

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Julia's avatar

Thank you deeply for reading and welcoming my words. This is a vulnerable share, thank you for making your heart a safe space for it ♥️

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♤ÈMI ÀṢÀKÉ♤'s avatar

You're welcomeee ✨️

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Lyndsay Kaldor's avatar

Ahhh Julia how I have missed you and your tender words. Thank you for writing this, with you in every part, so much the needing space for creativity and then realising that my creativity takes on their form. And of course the many many times I wish I could take back my words or tone. And yes, how oh how to people travel widely and wildly with kids when getting up the hill after school feels like climbing Everest every day?! Sending much love and big hugs xx

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Julia's avatar

Taking in the love and hugs so gratefully! Thank you for being beautiful and human at the same time 🙏🏼

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Emma Del Rey's avatar

You are not alone. I often wish I was to be all of these mothers, a mother I feel is so different from the one I am. Motherhood is so hard, I really try to surrender into being the mother my kid needs and figuring out how to be her. Not who I think I should or could be on my best days, but the one he is asking for. It brings out a lot of compassion and ease when I think like that.

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Julia's avatar

Sometimes it's just a little too difficult to read their signs. When you're tired and need mothering yourself and just about anything they do (even the harmless things!!) feel like a cruel siege against your already fragmented nervous system. Motherhood is humbling and a steep learning curve and a blessing all in the space of the same minute, isn't it. Keep being you, mama ♥️

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A. Wilder Westgate's avatar

Me too, friend. I really hope that you feel from this that you're not alone as well. 🧡

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Julia's avatar

This feels like a hug. I am taking it. 🫶🏼

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Oh me too me too… my heart feels seen by your beautiful words. I wish I could be one of those mothers… I shouted so much this afternoon and I spent the entirety of bedtime apologising to my littlest. She is so forgiving and I really don’t feel I deserve it sometimes. Thank you. Xxx

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Julia's avatar

Learning forgiveness from the very toddlers who send the sky crumbling over our heads. Motherhood is a strange dance of contrasts, confusion and love.

You are a beautiful soul, I hope you remember this when days get hard. ♥️

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